Monday, June 29, 2009

Do You Know Your Story?

I didn't know I had a story. I was living life - one day at a time - not really paying attention to a whole lot. My plan for the day included: wake up, go to work, come home, go to sleep. Of course, there were a few things in between like family and church stuff, but not much else. Life was a daily blur.

In September 2005, I accepted what would be this biggest challenge of my life. I joined a women's mentoring group. You have to understand just how huge this was for me. I hated women. No, I abhorred them. So, to become a part of a women's mentoring group was VERY unlike me. I "told" God that I didn't want anything to do with women, much less women's mentoring or ministry. Absolutely NO WAY!! I'm sure you can imagine the Lord chuckling at my demands.

As you can guess, I was thrown in head first. Around the table the questions came, "Why are you here?" and "What do you want to gain from our time together?" Huh? I had no idea how to answer those plus a few more! All I knew was that I intensely disliked the woman that I had become...bitter, angry, hot-headed, and downright mean!

It was time. It was time for me to totally surrender. I surrendered my will, my time, and my preconceived ideas of the ladies around the room. I surrendered my life to the One who loves me most. Into His hands I submitted my heart and soul.

During my second year of the two-year program, we were assigned to tell our stories. Me? What story? I don't want to look back on my life? All of the ugly things that I had done and things that were done to me. NO!!

After reading the book for the month - To Be Told by Dr. Dan Allender - my heart was changed. I realized there were wounds left untouched. There were wounds still festering from my past. So, I obeyed my mentor and poured out the memories of my past. It was painful. It was beautiful. It was for my benefit.

Do you know YOUR story? Somebody needs to hear it.

"Much can be remembered and learned by looking back, but only for a visit, not an extended stay." -- The Shack

Today I met with an acquaintance whom I believe will turn into a friend. She needed to hear my story. No, not all of it...no gory details today...just bite-size pieces. It was painful. It was beautiful.

Do you know YOUR story? I pray you will revisit your past. Why? To remember and celebrate what God has brought you through.

Pen away my friend...pen away.

Sunday, June 28, 2009

The Change Formula

Church was great this morning! Well, actually, it always is, but I just had to say it!

Our pastor has been sharing on transition the last few weeks; however, today, he began a new series entitled, "Seasons". My curiosity was at a level high because transitions, seasons, and change have all been swimming around in my head for a while. So with pen and journal in hand, I poised myself to listen and learn!

Our pastor gave us this formula...I encourage you to chew on it for a minute:

Change of Place + Change of Pace = Change of Perspective

Now, say it aloud. Say it again. Say it real slow.

I could relate immediately on so many platforms. I'll give you a simple one...

In November 2007, we moved from the "City of Hills" to the "City of Rivers". There was an immediate change of place...it was obvious.

With the move came an immediate sense of relief. We had been driving quite a distance for work and church. With our move, the gas bill, toll expenses, and drive time decreased considerably. We were so thankful!

Our change of place (hills to rivers) + our change of pace (drive time, tolls, & gas) = our change of perspective.

The change in perspective has been HUGE! I have learned so much living here...about the goodness of the Lord, about nature, about rest. There's a great sense of Shalom peace that comes when you know you're at the right place at the right time...His right plan for our family.

Regardless of where you are positioned in the change formula, change IS good because God IS good!

I've never had a greater yearning in my heart to "go with the flow". This is unusual for me because I am a planner. I need framework. I need visual aids. I need something solid OR ELSE!

Be still and rest...the Psalms have been a great reminder to commit, trust, and lean into my Great Shepherd. Change is inevitable. Change is necessary. Change is the formula for the greater plan...His plan for our lives.

This summer has been a season of rest, but change is around the corner. New place, new pace, and new perspective...I can't wait!

Thursday, June 25, 2009

A Sad Day

I'm saddened today by the death of two icons - Farrah Fawcett and Michael Jackson. Both passed away on June 25, 2009...one expected and the other unexpected.

I was an avid fan of Charlie's Angels. My family - consisting of my dad, mom, and I - would gather together weekly to watch Charlie's Angels. I imagined myself in a polyester leisure suit, a long-sleeved satin blouse with fluffy bow around the neck, and high leather boots. I even had a poster of Charlie's three beauties in my closet posed with gun in hand. My mom was a hair stylist, so you can imagine the feathered nest on my head as I attempted Farrah's iconic hair style! Treasured memories...I chuckle just thinking about it.

Michael Jackson brings more memories. My best friend lived two houses to the left in the cul-de-sac...San Anselmo Lane to be exact. She had two older brothers who were huge MJ fans, so needless to say, there were records, posters, calendars, etc. piled all over their rooms. I specifically remember the album, Off The Wall. We played that album day after day after day. Treasured BFF moments.

I'm saddened today. I'm saddened that the symbols of a time fondly remembered have passed.

For me, I'll remember Farrah Fawcett and Michael Jackson for the connection and camaraderie they brought to my family and friends.

- I'll remember Farrah Fawcett for joining my family together on Friday nights and for providing my mom with one more hair style experiment.

- I'll remember Michael Jackson for providing the lyrics, beat, dance steps, and videos that forever influenced music history.

I pray that in their very last breath, they cried out to their Savior...

Romans 10:13, KJV, "For whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved."

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Tribes - We Need YOU to Lead Us -- Seth Godin

I love to read. I love to read books that motivate, challenge, and encourage me.

My newest book is, "Tribes - We Need You to Lead Us," by Seth Godin. It's a small book. Only 151 pages with no chapters. It is a book that I find completely unorthodox -- a NEW way of thinking, viewing, living, and leading. This book is chock-full of inspiration!

To list the quotes that provoked me would take years of blogs. However, one particular section of Tribes was entitled, "The F Word", (p. 42). F is for Fear.

This portion of the book really stopped me in my tracks because fear had been an obstacle for me since childhood. In the past, fear stopped me from accomplishing many things and diverted me from many opportunities to lead.

Godin shares that the industry does not suffer from a lack of ideas. It suffers from a lack of folks without fear. Fear stops us from sharing our ideas and initiating change.

This quote was HUGE for me, "The only short-cut in this book, the only technique or how-to or inside info is this: the levers are here. The proof is here. The power is here. The only thing holding you back is your own fear. Not easy to admit, but essential to understand."

Ok, that hit me right in between the eyes!

- When will I actually use the tools (i.e., books, sermons, blogs, etc.) in my belt?
- When will I apply what I am learning?
- When will I grasp that the world needs my leadership?

Godin paraphrases The Peter Principle by saying, "In every organization everyone rises to the level at which they become paralyzed by fear."

During a recent conversation with an acquaintance, it became clear that their parenting style catered to the "F" word = Fear. Scheduling, activities, meals, and life in general were all maneuvered around fear. I walked away from that discussion with a deep sense in my heart that the Lord was saying to me, "Don't cater to fear." Catering to fear is not a healthy way to live and is a surefire way to miss a divine moment.

The world is changing at a constant rate. It is either changing with me or without me, but it IS changing. I can either flow with or resist its circular motion.

Fear may be a factor, but it does not have to fester. Awareness is the key to making progress.

Tuesday, June 23, 2009

The STRONG Parent

I've never considered myself to be very strong. I've done a great job of focusing on my weaknesses vs. my strengths all my life. As a matter of fact, I may have even become an expert...until last summer.

Last July, I was introduced to a book entitled, Your Child's Strengths by Jenifer Fox, M-ed. Since then, everything has changed...my lenses, my outlook, and my parenting approach...just to name a few areas!

I heard in a sermon recently that there's two things you can count on:

1) Change
2) A God who NEVER changes (Malachi 3:6)

At the time I read this book, I was not aware that I needed to change. Everything seemed to be working well between my daughters and I, but why was I so exhausted? Why did I feel so depleted? Why was I so discouraged?

Jenifer Fox helped me to realize that my approach, or the angle by which I was relating to my daughters, needed to change = less focus on what they were doing "wrong" and more focus on what they were doing RIGHT. What a concept!

So, I began changing my language around the house. I began purposely transforming, with the Lord's help of course, into a positive parent. I became my daughters' cheerleader!

Guess what? I'm happier. They are happier. My husband is happier.

I have a friend that occasionally reminds me of this - mom sets the temperature of her home. So, in other words, I play a huge part in my family's environment. Will it be an environment of criticism, fault-finding, and finger-pointing OR will it be an environment of complimenting, highlighting, and Jesus-pointing?

Today, I am a STRONG parent praying for and influencing STRONG daughters. I am purposely growing...reading books, studying Scripture, participating in workshops and retreats that encourage my areas of STRENGTHS.

It's an unorthodox approach to life, but it is one that has absolutely changed my life and the lives of my loved ones!!

I have been forever changed by the God who never changes!!

For more information on Jenifer Fox visit her website: www.StrengthsMovement.com.

Friday, June 19, 2009

Moved by the Pain of Another

Today, I am deeply moved by the pain of another.

A very dear friend endured surgery this week. I received a message a few moments ago regarding the degree of pain that she is in...10 out of 10. I was moved to tears by her pain. I cried out to the King of Kings for compassion, relief, and comfort.

Isaiah 49:13 AMP, "Sing for joy, O heavens, and be joyful, O earth, and break forth into singing, O mountains! For the Lord has comforted His people and will have compassion upon His afflicted."

I am thankful that He hears me when I pray. Jesus thanked His Father for the very same thing...His listening ear...right before Lazarus was raised from the dead (John 11:41). After Jesus gave thanks, the most incredible miracle of His ministry followed.

Thank You my Abba that You hear me when I pray for the needs of my friends, my family, my church...my very own needs.

Jesus was a man of compassion. He was moved by the pain of another. In fact, He was so moved at the pain we would suffer as a result of eternal separation from God, that He took our place. He gave of Himself, voluntarily gave His life in exchange for ours! Isnt' it amazing? AMAZING LOVE!!

The pain of another moves me today. Moves me to not only pray for my friend, but pray for a compassionate heart like His. A great exchange between His heart and mine.

Thursday, June 18, 2009

Life Saver, Life Savior

It's summertime!! My youngest daughter and I have been swimming every morning and we're loving it!! The pool is in the open air and is surrounded by trees and birds of all sorts. We enjoy each other very much during our swim time...we do hand stand contests, swim laps, and toss around a water bomb or two ( no worries, the water bomb is perfectly safe...just a mushy pool toy.).

Yesterday, we got into an interesting conversation. Please indulge me for a moment while I paint a word picture for you...

My daughter asked me about rescuing a drowning swimmer. Would I allow her to jump into the pool to save someone (she was most likely imagining a drowning victim being a child of her size or smaller). In other words, would I allow her to jump into the pool, grab the victim, and pull them to safety.

I could tell on her face that my response was something that she did not expect. My answer was NO...not in the way that she viewed rescuing.

I pointed to two pool safety devices that were hanging on the fence surrounding the pool - a life hook and a life ring (or life saver as we would call it). I explained that these devices are used to pull someone to safety. I went on to say that many have drowned trying to save someone. So as much as it would depend on her in a pool emergency situation, she should use the safety devices already provided.

There was much more discussion; however, I'd like to make a point that relates to personal growth.

There was a time in my life that I was drowning...drowning in self-contempt, bitterness, condemnation, and fear. That's a short list of the myriad of negative emotions that daily tormented me. I had come to a place where I needed help...this was an emergency.

I met a woman who not only threw me a "life saver", but also life-hooked me into the redeeming love of God. She introduced me to the Life Savior.

Personal growth is just that, it's personal. This woman provided me with tools and aids to get out of the fatal whirlpool that I was in.

2 Peter 2:5-8 AMP encourages us to personally grow or develop in these areas:

- virtue (excellence, resolution, Christian energy)
- knowledge (intelligence)
- self-control
- steadfastness (patience, endurance)
- godliness (piety)
- brotherly affection
- Christian love

We are encouraged in 2 Peter 1 to add diligence and employ every effort in exercising our faith to develop in the above areas, or as I would term them - godly strengths.

Growth is personal. This is something that we do on our own, but we don't have to do it alone. We can exercise our faith to grow within a community. I was introduced and welcomed into to a Christ-centered community of women. A community where life savers and life hooks were divinely provided.

I have been rescued and introduced to the Life Savior. My focus is on growing in Christ, growing in grace and in the knowledge of Him. I am not alone. You don't have to be...reach out to the Life Savior. Grab hold of His safety devices and be welcomed in to a new life in Him today!

For more information visit: www.LegacyPrinciples.com.

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Resistance is Futile

I am married (13 years on July 6th!) to a Star Trek fan. Does not really matter the version, whether it was the Captain James C. Kirk (portrayed by William Shatner) years or the Captain Jean-Luc Picard (portrayed by Patrick Stewart) years...my husband is and always will be a fan.

Personally, I'm not a fan of Star Trek; however, for the sake of our marriage relationship, I watch a Star Trek rerun or two on occasion...you know, that "shoulder-to-shoulder" thing.

From the few episodes that I have endured, I do remember a strange set of cyber folks from Star Trek - The Next Generation named the Borg. I remember them for a particular phrase, "Resistance if Futile". This phrase has been adopted by pop culture and basically describes a failing struggle against the flow.

Do you know anyone like that? Resistance is their Modus Operandi (MO), their method or response to everything - challenges, change, love, and life in general. Very frustrating!

One of my favorite books is Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers. Oh, how I enjoyed every word that flowed from the pages of that incredible novel. I don't want to spoil it for you, but in order to make my point, I've got to throw you a bone about the main character. Her MO was resistance. She resisted challenges, change, love, and life in general. Very frustrating!

I confess that I resist too. I'm not picky...I resist all kinds of things. It is often my first response. But one thing I know, Jesus is calling me to surrender. Maybe His pop culture response to the Borg would be, "Surrender is Fertile".

- Surrender brings my heart to a place of openness
- Surrender brings my heart to a place where it can be tilled
- Surrender prepares my heart for supernatural seed and then, for harvest
- Surrender breaks uncultivated ground

Hosea 10:12 AMP, "Sow for yourselves according to righteousness (uprightness and right standing with God); reap according to mercy and loving-kindness. Break up your uncultivated ground, for it is time to seek the Lord, to inquire for and of Him, and to require His favor, till He comes and teaches you righteousness and rains His righteous gift of salvation upon you."

Resistance is Futile...Surrender is Fertile. Which will you choose today?

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

A Tsunami of Love

I have this feeling. It's just a feeling. Not a girlie feeling, an achy feeling, or a mushy feeling. It's a deep feeling...that a tsunami is coming. There is a rumbling. A trembling. The waters are vibrating, the foundation is shifting...a better way is coming.

There's a song by Kari Jobe, Sweep Me Away, that captures what I'm feeling. This is what I'm asking Him for...

Sweep me away, Sweep me away in Your love
Where nothing else matters

Just You and me, Just You and me,
Sweep me away oh Lord

Your grace, it covers me
Your love, it covers me
Oh God, You cover me

I want to be drenched in the waters of love, joy, peace, and hope. I want to be refreshed in my motherhood, my marriage, and my relationships.

Teach me, Lord, to be a strong woman with a soft heart.

- Teach me to talk like You do
- Teach me to encourage like You do
- Teach me to love like You do
- Teach me to see the potential in others like You do
- Teach me a better way

Hebrews 7:20 MSG, "...Jesus the guarantee of a far better way between us and God—one that really works!"

There is a better way. There has to be. The Bible says that there is and it is in Him, by Him, and through Him...Jesus.

My anticipation is growing. My heart is soaring. The movement has begun. A tsunami of love - a better way - is on the rise.

Pray with me to be swept away.